Forum Avatar Psychology
- curious_sb
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Forum Avatar Psychology
I cant think where to stick this post (probably sb discussions) but for now I will post in "everything else".
I dont know if its just me, but I am having a real hard time working out who is male and who is female on here. Maybe its the avatars people are choosing and I'd like to find out WHY they chose those avatars, on the psychological level.
For instance, I'm pretty sure misQui (sorry for picking on you dude but you are the best example) is a MAN, as quoted from his intro: "I'm a 28yo CD".
Yet whenever I reply to his topics, I seem to approach him on a more feminine level, and its not because Im gay or hes a bit camp, im sure he's a great bloke, its just the avatar. It freaks me out that hes actually a man, the same goes for LoRee who also sports a female avatar.
Maybe its because he is a self confessed CD, like LoRee, who I also see as a female, its reallly wierd, I cant explain it, but as I was saying, maybe it is this openness about their sexuality as CrossDressers that perhaps they see themselves as feminine people, and wish to project this image out, so probably thats why they chose the avatars that they chose - and I think thats a really beautiful thing.
Comments welcome
I dont know if its just me, but I am having a real hard time working out who is male and who is female on here. Maybe its the avatars people are choosing and I'd like to find out WHY they chose those avatars, on the psychological level.
For instance, I'm pretty sure misQui (sorry for picking on you dude but you are the best example) is a MAN, as quoted from his intro: "I'm a 28yo CD".
Yet whenever I reply to his topics, I seem to approach him on a more feminine level, and its not because Im gay or hes a bit camp, im sure he's a great bloke, its just the avatar. It freaks me out that hes actually a man, the same goes for LoRee who also sports a female avatar.
Maybe its because he is a self confessed CD, like LoRee, who I also see as a female, its reallly wierd, I cant explain it, but as I was saying, maybe it is this openness about their sexuality as CrossDressers that perhaps they see themselves as feminine people, and wish to project this image out, so probably thats why they chose the avatars that they chose - and I think thats a really beautiful thing.
Comments welcome
Curious_SB
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I've never really given this that much thought before, but I certainly didn't choose the avatar because I want to deceive anyone. And by the way, I didn't even know it was called an 'avatar'. It seems a fairly silly word to me. Anyway, that's not important.
So yeah, I figure that in my 'normal' life, most of the people I deal with don't know I'm a CDer so it's a welcome break to talk on the 'interweb' in a way where I can project both the male and female sides of my personality. Due to the 'maleness' in my normal life I guess it's just nice to give the female side a showing and therefore I chose a female avatar rather than male. And as much as I like to think I look that good in my female guise, I'm afraid the little picture is actually of Christina Ricci who some of you may remember played Wednesday Adams in The Adams Family. Hasn't she grown up to be a lovely looking young lady?
So yeah, I figure that in my 'normal' life, most of the people I deal with don't know I'm a CDer so it's a welcome break to talk on the 'interweb' in a way where I can project both the male and female sides of my personality. Due to the 'maleness' in my normal life I guess it's just nice to give the female side a showing and therefore I chose a female avatar rather than male. And as much as I like to think I look that good in my female guise, I'm afraid the little picture is actually of Christina Ricci who some of you may remember played Wednesday Adams in The Adams Family. Hasn't she grown up to be a lovely looking young lady?
First thanks to misQui as I love the Adams family and did not recognize that lovely face as Wednesday Adams. Maybe it was that Russian like hat?
YES Anna, that is my all time favorite bondage Goddess Bettie. I am a pure switch (meaning I like being Dom & Sub equally); I am bi-sexual and am very much in touch with my feminine side. My fem side is mostly submissive and I LOVE playing the part of the helplessly bound Heroine waiting to be tortured, sexually molested, or whatever. That is why I chose the avatar I did. Unfortunately the sex & sultry look was all I could find in the way of an avatar. If I could find one of her tightly bound & gagged the way I like to be, then perhaps I'd change it. For me this was a most conscious rather than a psychologically sub conscious choice. I feel it is a most appropriate avatar to project who I am on this forum.
So do tell curious_sb, what was the reason for choosing your avatar?
YES Anna, that is my all time favorite bondage Goddess Bettie. I am a pure switch (meaning I like being Dom & Sub equally); I am bi-sexual and am very much in touch with my feminine side. My fem side is mostly submissive and I LOVE playing the part of the helplessly bound Heroine waiting to be tortured, sexually molested, or whatever. That is why I chose the avatar I did. Unfortunately the sex & sultry look was all I could find in the way of an avatar. If I could find one of her tightly bound & gagged the way I like to be, then perhaps I'd change it. For me this was a most conscious rather than a psychologically sub conscious choice. I feel it is a most appropriate avatar to project who I am on this forum.
So do tell curious_sb, what was the reason for choosing your avatar?
"I find it far more annoying when the universe makes me work for damnation. I prefer it just gave it to me and save me the effort"
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Hmm, hard to say really, I guess it was an expression of masculinity yet submissiveness as opposed to dominant or aggression, or femininity.
I guess it was really to say hey I am a man, but I like to feel helpless everynow and again. A prison scene is kind of a fantasy really, and as anna says I like to retain some sort of control while playing safe and having a good time.
I guess it was really to say hey I am a man, but I like to feel helpless everynow and again. A prison scene is kind of a fantasy really, and as anna says I like to retain some sort of control while playing safe and having a good time.
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Anna wrote:
So, what do you think of my revised avatar Anna? I think you are right, as this one more clearly conveys the kind of bound & punished slut I aspire to be.That small image has so much impact on the way you and your posts are received by the reader. Take care to chose an avatar that sends the right image of who you are or want to be. And when you have chosen it, do not change it to often.
"I find it far more annoying when the universe makes me work for damnation. I prefer it just gave it to me and save me the effort"
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avatar's
Well mine is just me, and as Anna has mentioned an avatar should give a good picture of who you are and your interests.
Job done!
Job done!
- curious_sb
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Re: avatar's
Can't really argue with that one!TieMeTighter wrote:Well mine is just me, and as Anna has mentioned an avatar should give a good picture of who you are and your interests.
Job done!
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