I'm a married female, my husband and I do kinky stuff but nobody knows, and I am really shy to talk about it so I don't know how much I will, however, sometimes you open up over time so who knows? We have been married a very long time. I've always had BDSM fantasies and before we married I told him, and he said he was on board to try it, we did a little, but then kids came along and it all went away while we raised children. Now they are grown and gone so now we feel safe to start doing it again. We have some cuffs and rope, a cat'o nine, a crop and a single tailed whip, and a few other toys. But my favorite is good old fashioned leather belt. I'm sub and he's dom and it's not a lifestyle, neither of us rules in our vanilla life. In fact he'd probably tell you that I do. But really I think we are equal partners.
We are both professionals. I present to the world as maybe a bit uptight, conservative, and I don't think anyone would guess I'm into this kind of thing. In real life I'm very averse to being controlled by anyone. It has been difficult to make a small portion of my fantasies into reality but what we do is great fun! My husband was at first a bit reluctant but he has grown to love it. He says he was always a dom at heart but never actualized it until I made him realize that yes, I really do want to be controlled and hurt - in this specific arena. We do have a safeword but I've only used it once. That was when he wanted to put me up on the kitchen counter and fuck me but the windows were open and the possibility for neighbors to see is not gonna happen. I've never safeworded out of a whipping though.
Hi everybody
- Shannon SteelSlave
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Welcome, again, and thanks for introducing, Lyn. Enjoy your stay.
Bondage is like a foreign film without subtitles. Only through sharing and practice can we hope to understand.
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
- bound_jenny
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Welcome to the forum!
You don't have to worry about revealing anything too quickly. Basically, you can learn things here as much as we could potentially learn from you. But at your own pace. If you want to just hang out for now, it's OK. Nobody's pushing.
Have fun and relax.
Jenny.
You don't have to worry about revealing anything too quickly. Basically, you can learn things here as much as we could potentially learn from you. But at your own pace. If you want to just hang out for now, it's OK. Nobody's pushing.
Have fun and relax.
Jenny.
Helplessness is a doorway to the innermost reaches of the soul.
If my corset isn't tight, it just isn't right!
Kink is the spice of life!
Come to the Dark Side - we have cookies!
If my corset isn't tight, it just isn't right!
Kink is the spice of life!
Come to the Dark Side - we have cookies!
Re: Hi everybody
I repeat what Shannon said: "Welcome, again, and thanks for introducing, Lyn. Enjoy your stay."
It is just like you started your BDSM: In the beginning it is sensing how much of yourself you want to release, but once you have set your limits in it, you can enjoy the new experiences in your self-defined safe environment.
Do not feel obliged to disclose certain things, many of the members - as I did for several years before - enjoy just reading the texts of others.
It is just like you started your BDSM: In the beginning it is sensing how much of yourself you want to release, but once you have set your limits in it, you can enjoy the new experiences in your self-defined safe environment.
Do not feel obliged to disclose certain things, many of the members - as I did for several years before - enjoy just reading the texts of others.
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Welcome to the Forum. As Jenny says just travel at your own comfort level.
Never confuse your ambitions with your abilities. If you can't free yourself, who will?
When your helpless, you have no choice but to wait.
When your helpless, you have no choice but to wait.
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Welcome!
Very nice Intro! Proceed at your own pace.
Very nice Intro! Proceed at your own pace.
There's a fine line between cuddling and holding someone down so they can't get away.
The beatings will continue until morale improves.
Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons - for you are crunchy and good with ketchup.
The beatings will continue until morale improves.
Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons - for you are crunchy and good with ketchup.