For this particular event, the Dom obviously felt responsible, guilty, and killed himself.
From my perspective (and not popular opinion here) though: The sub had total control of the situation and needs to take ultimate responsibility.
I experience this exact same scenario almost weekly and I do not hold my owner accountable. I choose whether to have a safety release that I control and have to re-convince my owner almost monthly that I am ok if the house burns down and I am chained within if _I choose_ to not have one. This obviously bothers my Dom on occasion as it will come up from time to time and have a notarized document in the safety deposit box that I hold my partner completely harmless for any accidental death especially during sexual situations. Drugs are sometimes involved and _I control_ what I put in my body and with whom I associate sexually. We usually have a backup release, but as I found out recently that can fail as well
This is an incredibly slippery slope for anyone to try and make an argument that the Dom was responsible:
- What happens if you tie someone's thigh accidentally to tight and it triggers a DVT and subsequent aneurism related death?
- Dom having heart attack in the middle of a session? (Gerald's Game)
- What about someone tripping on a hobble chain and striking a fatal blow to their head when they fall?
- Every night I am usually in unescapable restraints and if my partner dies overnight, I am dead of starvation (Romeo & Juliet ish).
Dom being negligent / ignorant in all of these too or should I the sub take the blame?? Why did this person travel to the US instead of finding professional in the UK? Likely because he tried to find it in the UK and no one would cater to his risk level. Most of our culture is based on people taking huge risks for great rewards although this seems to be changing overtime.
Bottom line: We all are going to die! I would rather die doing something I loved, than waste an opportunity and die from old age with regrets.
Don’t reach the end of your life and realize you never really lived it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ke-rPsxIuA