If I compare all the relationships I've had, none of them compare to my private world of self bondage. Yes I've been tied up & gagged with partners & I've had to ask most of them to tie me in a way that it's impossible for me to move or get free & to gag, blindfold & fuck me til they want to let me go. Those were ok but never hit the mark to what I can do myself with SB.
On the physical side I can secure myself & go right to the limit of only being able to get free once my wrists are untied. Emotionally, I can get to the zone where I need to be to lose myself in a fantasy scenario where I can cum numerous times until I'm drained. To me, being unable to move whilst perfectly gagged & seeing myself in that vulnerable fuckable/lickable position, then struggling whilst feeling the ropes firmly around my body & limbs & the buttplug, large silicon cock & bud buzzer stimulating me to fruition & once the orgasm starts there's nothing I can do to stop it is something I was never able to achieve with partners.
Nothing Comes Close To SB
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Re: Nothing Comes Close To SB
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Re: Nothing Comes Close To SB
For me, partnered or self bondage are two different animals each fulfilling a different need.
But there is a huge difference with partnered bondage - I need to absolutely and completely trust the person who binds me. Otherwise, it's a no-go.
Self-bondage affords me a quick and easy escape, a release from the day to day stresses, frustrations, acrimony or just plain stupid people. I escape from all that while I'm bound. My struggles help to blow off the steam accumulated. Or I can add a vibrating friend to spice it up. Either way, I finish relaxed and satisfied. But still in total control.
Partnered bondage is very different in what kind of emotions go through my mind during the experience. I have to be relaxed and unfettered by negative emotions before going into it. The fact that someone is there to bind me - and release me - lets me consent to the holy grail of "inescapable bondage", something I can't do when alone (especially since my health incident back in 2015). That's where the trust comes in. I have to be 100% confident that the person binding me will keep watch over me, check my health state, and respond to my reactions while under his or her control. Plus be 200% confident that he or she will end the session either when I signify so (safeword) or if something is not right. To gain such trust from me takes a lot.
Jenny.
But there is a huge difference with partnered bondage - I need to absolutely and completely trust the person who binds me. Otherwise, it's a no-go.
Self-bondage affords me a quick and easy escape, a release from the day to day stresses, frustrations, acrimony or just plain stupid people. I escape from all that while I'm bound. My struggles help to blow off the steam accumulated. Or I can add a vibrating friend to spice it up. Either way, I finish relaxed and satisfied. But still in total control.
Partnered bondage is very different in what kind of emotions go through my mind during the experience. I have to be relaxed and unfettered by negative emotions before going into it. The fact that someone is there to bind me - and release me - lets me consent to the holy grail of "inescapable bondage", something I can't do when alone (especially since my health incident back in 2015). That's where the trust comes in. I have to be 100% confident that the person binding me will keep watch over me, check my health state, and respond to my reactions while under his or her control. Plus be 200% confident that he or she will end the session either when I signify so (safeword) or if something is not right. To gain such trust from me takes a lot.
Jenny.
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Re: Nothing Comes Close To SB
Yes, I can understand that. Since Covid my friend who used to free me from 'inescapable bondages' is not available. This means that I don't get that extra rush from being totally reliant on a third party for my freedom.Lotharjulz wrote: I used to love SB but the thought that I'm still in control I cannot shake in my own sessions anymore.
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Re: Nothing Comes Close To SB
This, and I also want to gift my submission, power of me to someone. I want someone to get that rush.Lotharjulz wrote: . . . I find that partner bondage is more ideal for me. I used to love SB but the thought that I'm still in control I cannot shake in my own sessions anymore.
Re: Nothing Comes Close To SB
My wife is not into bondage but will on occasion indulge me. However, her idea of secure and mine aren’t the same. Therefore, I came up with a hybrid. I secure myself, and at some point she arrives to punish me. She will usually move me to other positions and for the most part keep me secure.