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Bondage safety tips

Postby Cindy123 » 13 Oct 2006, 00:33

I am not preaching!!! but only want the members to play but keep it safe.
I have been doing self-bondage for a long time and would like to give you my advise (some learned the hard way).
I use chain,locks, handcuffs, shackles, etc because the bondage is real and wont cut off the blood flow if done correctly, I dont use rope because it can tighten and numb your hands and feet.
1) never tie anything around your neck.
2) when using handcuffs make sure the key hole is faceing your hands.
3) use locks that have the same key.
4) never use fire or elect in your sessions.
5)always use backup releases, never trust one release!!!!!!!!
6)if you going to use a gag, make sure you can handle it for the time you in bondage, (try first unbound for 2to3 hours).
7)wrap duck-tape around your wrists to cut down the chaifing.
8) dont chain your hands over your head for over 1 hour, the blood will drain from your arms and hands and your hands will become numb and you may not be able to handle the keys.
9)if you can, double lock the handcuffs so you dont tighten them in error.
10) dont cuff your ankles to tight (you wont be able to walk).
11) Before clicking that last lock in place make dam sure you checked everything at least three times.

In closing I know how exciting it is to dream up a new session, and when your horrny its not your brain thats thinking, its your cock or in my case its my cunt and you tend to rush into the scene, please stop for a second, and make sure your safe.

I am not your mother! but care abought you all, and would hate to see anyone hirt.
PLAY SAFE..............HAVE FUN
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Amen

Postby tyerrup » 17 Nov 2006, 07:19

Amen Cindy!

I would change one thing that you said. Instead of duct tape, use some terry cloth wrist bands to protect your wrists instead, especially with handcuffs. Remember the 70's anyone? With the sweatband on the head and the two for the wrist? Well, you can still buy them at Big 5 and other places and they don't take much space in your dresser drawer, they look "vanilla" in case your family/friends see them and they really do help cut down on the dreaded comments from co-workers Monday morning such as "Why are your wrists all red?" :)
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Postby curious_sb » 17 Nov 2006, 08:04

Neat idea, yes you can still get them from tennis shops and sports shops in general too (in the UK).
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Postby Cindy123 » 17 Nov 2006, 20:17

Yea sounds like a good idea, I will put it to use on my next session. now if I can find somthing for my neck:-0
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Postby Anastasia » 17 Nov 2006, 22:10

Cindy123 wrote:Yea sounds like a good idea, I will put it to use on my next session. now if I can find somthing for my neck:-0


Darling, the terry cloth headbands fit about the neck as well. My preference is for bandannas, a totally yummy fetish of mine. Either of the above can take the edge off of metal restraints.
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby Gabriel » 25 Jul 2012, 03:48

Here's an excerpt from my e-book. Some of the tips overlap with the OP, but i think they're worth repeating. :wink:


1. Are you using new restraints? If so, practice unlocking them.
2. If you’re using handcuffs, make sure to double-lock them.
2a. The keyhole must always face your hands!
3. Do you have any drugs or alcohol in your system? If you do, don’t tie yourself – or do a mild tie with your hands in front. Do not use a gag.
4. Using a gag? Make sure to leave some slack so you can push it out with your tongue if you start choking.
5. Lock and unlock all your padlocks to make sure you have the right keys.
6. Test your release mechanism to make sure it goes off. If you can’t test it (block of ice, etc), set up a backup release mechanism.
7. If you put on a collar, make sure it’s not too tight.
8. No ropes, leashes or nooses around the neck! The only exception is a loose collar that’s not connected to anything.
9. Make sure you have an emergency key release.
10. Do not suspend or hang yourself.

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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby bdsm984 » 25 Jul 2012, 12:57

I kinda wonder why this isn't a sticky yet.. It's been here 2006, according to post-times. Those are some pretty good tips to follow through.
Especially testing new restraints prior to use in a full scenario would be vital. Everywhere you go, not knowing your equipment could prove to be dangerous (maybe not to yourself, per se).
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby bound_jenny » 26 Jul 2012, 00:48

Another good tip would be to do all equipment testing and scenario reviews while not under the influence of hormones. Doing such things with a clear head helps a lot in finding any bugs in either the gear or the scenario. Something that might seem really, really exciting when horny could hide a problem that could be deleterious to one's health or life.

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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby Gabriel » 26 Jul 2012, 04:38

^
Yup. Over on FetLife, a guy who was an expert in vacuum beds died because, apparently, he got too excited and decided to do some solo vacuum play... What makes it worse is that he was a very outspoken opponent of solo vacuum play. His partner was out of town and apparently the bed was set to her (much small) parameters. His neck was larger than hers and he suffocated... While not all of us have access to such advanced equipment, we can all do something profoundly stupid and equally lethal when the mood strikes. :(
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby SteelMan » 26 Jul 2012, 05:34

A few extra safety tips:

Leave the keys immediately within reach whenever trying anything new or unfamilar. If unexpected things go wrong (and they will), then keys are your friends. The more circumstances that you duplicate from the intended bondage scene in your trial run, the better. If you intend to be bound overnight, do repeated overnight tests in similar but escapable bondage.

Test your release mechanism thoroughly, when you do not necessarily need it to succeed. If something goes wrong and the keys don't drop, it is only an issue if you are inescapably bound.

I always apply the 'Rule of Orgasm'. Right before an orgasm, almost everything bondage-related sounds like a great idea, and you are more likely to deviate from the verified safe plan. After an orgasm, the cravings for bondage are much less prominent, so you are much less likely to do something risky/stupid/lethal. That post-orgasm timeframe is a great safety filter for otherwise unsafe activities.

Keys and string get along quite well. If you are concerned about a key falling out of reach, put it on a string and tie the other end of the string to something within reach. Or in order to keep from losing the keys, tie the string either to yourself or to some convenient object. Even if you lose a key that isn't tied to something, a piece of string makes it much easier to find.
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby Maid_Lauren » 05 Jan 2013, 13:44

The short chain between handcuffs makes them hard to open especially when you have your hands cuffed behind your back. They are harder to remove if the key hole is opposite the wrists. You can make a longer key by taping a key to a pencil or clothes pin. Another thing to do is to cut the short chain and add a longer link. This gives you a little more room to find the key hole and in an Emergancy you can use a wrench or pliers to open the link. I really like having my hands chained to my waist and longer key lets me get free quicker.
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby sleeptight » 09 Sep 2015, 18:32

No bondage is completely safe. The same goes for any activity from skiing to crossing the road. We can minimise the risk though so it is at an acceptable level. As mentioned before have a plan B. A plan C and plan D are also good ideas. The more ways out you have, the less the risk. Don't be naive though; Make sure that you think about single points of failure. If you have 100 ways of getting a key to undo a lock and the lock fails, then you have got a problem. The multiple escape methods must be completely independent of each other or at least inter linkable. 3 different ways of getting 3 different keys that all fit three padlocks makes the odds a lot more favourable, should something go wrong. As mentioned before, slowly add components of the bondage if it is complicated. Don't just jump in with 10 pairs of hand cuffs, a straight jacket and lots of 15mm cable ties, because you will come unstuck. Try a small bit, test it, see how it feels, check your blood can still flow to all appendages and that you can still breathe comfortably etc. Then add the next bit and so on.

If you can't or won't find a bondage partner, consider having a good friend who can be your back up buddy. Give them the keys to your house and let them know what yuo are doing. Tell them if you haven't contacted them by a certain time then you could possibly have a problem. Make sure they are available and willing to help first though. Also remember that bondage partners and back up buddies can also be a single point of failure. Don't stack everything on them. If something happens to them you again in trouble.

There's loads you can do to stay safe. Just be sensible and most of all have fun! :D
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby JIMDINI » 03 May 2016, 02:14

Having got myself stuck this weekend (viewtopic.php?f=11&t=9790&p=74046#p74046) and forced to struggle to contact my friend I made a discovery I thought I would share. My friend pointed out that most modern mobiles have a 'Safety assistant' (or similar) feature, that allows you to set up a pre written text message and contact(s), this can be activated by a single key in an emergency. :)
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby JIMDINI » 28 May 2016, 13:54

I had to call on my emergency back up today because I had not thought to check my gear for faults! :o

I was wearing my waist harness with handcuffs attached at the sides, Ankle cuffs, (joined by 2" chain) and a leather hood. I have made an extended key using a Plastic Rod and standard handcuff key which makes releasing the right hand cuff relatively straight forward,I have used this with no problem on many occasions for about a year. This is where I made the error,I did not stop to consider that plastic degrades over time when subjected to stresses. When I examined it afterwards I could see some of the tell tale stress lines in the rod.

All went well until I put my home made key in the lock as i turned it to release the double lock, the shaft sheared and the key flew out and bounced away. Not to worry I also had a standard Hiatts extended key as a back up.This was on the arm of a nearby chair. But as I sat down and reached for it disaster struck I knocked the arm and the kery fell down between the arm and seat cushion where I could not reach it. :'( On to emergency back up and a long wait for them to arrive and free me. :-[

Moral regularly check your gear (including keys) before use!
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Re: Bondage safety tips

Postby cdinbonds » 28 May 2016, 23:52

Also, put your backups in a place where they can't get lost! If this had been a real emergency you could have been in real trouble.
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