Welcome to the BoundAnna group,
Biglebonski.
Most of the time I play with the member
Gwrolla with the Lovense app and sometimes we play with xtoys.app with his Lovense toys.
The xtoys.app has more options and more people comes in (with other toys) where you can make contact for a play that you want. So you can play with them with the toy they have and they can play with you with your Lovense toy.
If you know a little of programming and read the manual of xtoys.app, you can make your own program for your Lovense at xtoys.app.
The only problem with xtoys.app is that sometimes the app doesn't respond when you make a private contact with another person and you must try it on another time, while with the Lovense app we hadn't that problem (probably due to less users).
If you know and trust someone well, you can use a video chat like in Discord where you film yourself while the other can decide if you do well enough and possibly impose a penalty for bad work.
