Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
I think its pretty even but I don't know.
I do know that feet is mainly a guy thing so they say but what about this ?
I do know that feet is mainly a guy thing so they say but what about this ?
"Tied Adventures" that was the idea behind this screen name.
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Re: Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
40 year old virgin. Only argument I can think of off hand, but I hear that is not uncharted territory.
Bondage is like a foreign film without subtitles. Only through sharing and practice can we hope to understand.
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I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
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For me, it's not so much the feet themselves but what I can wear on them. A nice pair of stiletto-heeled boots made of quality Italian leather... mmmmmm....
But I'm quite happy with some slaves groveling and worshiping at my feet, or licking my boots clean and shiny, etc.
Jenny.
But I'm quite happy with some slaves groveling and worshiping at my feet, or licking my boots clean and shiny, etc.
Jenny.
Helplessness is a doorway to the innermost reaches of the soul.
If my corset isn't tight, it just isn't right!
Kink is the spice of life!
Come to the Dark Side - we have cookies!
If my corset isn't tight, it just isn't right!
Kink is the spice of life!
Come to the Dark Side - we have cookies!
Re: Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
After kissing your feet, the submissive sitting on his knees puts on the "DIY/Spreader Plank"-boots andbound_jenny wrote:A nice pair of stiletto-heeled boots made of quality Italian leather... worshiping at my feet, or licking my boots clean and shiny, etc.
slowly closes them from bottom to top. Then he licks them clean from bottom to top ... so as to go further up.
Re: Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
While most of my girlfriends aren't aware of the depths of my depravity, nor the frankly insane situations they have led me to in the past, we have discussed it on occasion. Quite a few of them enjoys the thought of being tied to the bed by their partner, and occasionally does so, but no more than that - you'll never find them on boards like this one.
In these modern times, I think it has become even more taboo for a woman to say: "Handcuff me, tell me to shut up and take control." While it has never stopped me (maybe it should have from time to time), I do feel the need to hide my fetish thoroughly to maintain my job. I write erotic novels under a pseudonym, and since getting my current job, I've stopped going to BDSM-clubs. It's a shame that it has to be that way, but I do think that the fear of public humilation and the 'good, strong, independent women don't like getting tied up' could explain why the numbers seem skewered on forums like this one. I've lurked for years myself before signing up.
In these modern times, I think it has become even more taboo for a woman to say: "Handcuff me, tell me to shut up and take control." While it has never stopped me (maybe it should have from time to time), I do feel the need to hide my fetish thoroughly to maintain my job. I write erotic novels under a pseudonym, and since getting my current job, I've stopped going to BDSM-clubs. It's a shame that it has to be that way, but I do think that the fear of public humilation and the 'good, strong, independent women don't like getting tied up' could explain why the numbers seem skewered on forums like this one. I've lurked for years myself before signing up.
Links to my Patreon with self-bondage pictures and videos, my erotic stories on Amazon, and my Fiverr where you can order custom erotica: https://linktr.ee/jessicashackled
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I am of 2 lives myself. It's the only way I could be what I am. It's not to say that there is some crossover between lives.
Bondage is like a foreign film without subtitles. Only through sharing and practice can we hope to understand.
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
Re: Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
I've been living like that for as long as I can remember. I've recently decided it's better not lie or hide. It's been a challenge... and it's not over yet. Wish me luck.Shannon SteelSlave wrote:I am of 2 lives myself. It's the only way I could be what I am. It's not to say that there is some crossover between lives.
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I don't think of it as a lie, it's just no one's else's business. No one wanted me to be kinky in real life. They needed me to be a community hero then. Since I retired from service, my kink has had time to breed. Since the Vanillites still occasionally reach out to me, I still need the old voice for them to talk to.pavtron wrote: it's better not lie or hide.
Not right or wrong, but probably thought of as wrong by most. Doesn't involve anyone else. But to put it simply, My Business only.
Bondage is like a foreign film without subtitles. Only through sharing and practice can we hope to understand.
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
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Well said, Shannon!
Re: Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
Maybe there are many ways to live this part of our lives, and surely all of them are correct, it just depends on your point of view. If it works for you, then everything's fine.
Re: Bondage fetish prevalence in men vs women ?
Sorry for posting in an old topic but after looking around and reading things this one really got my attention.
Its true today being female you are expected to be all sorts of things and a lot of them contradictory. What I mean is we are still expected to be prim and proper but free and able to express ourselves.
We must be successful too. However not everyone wants to try and get the top job. We must be able to say hey look at me I am woman and I am strong and independent but we are also expected to be feminine and demure and delicate.
Thats just normal life when you put sex into things it gets really complicated.
How many times do you see complaints about a tv show or film where a female character is captured by the bad guys and needs rescuing or a sexy scene that reveals more of her than typically of him?
Do you ever see complains about men in these situations?
Add kink into this, I know its old now and been a topic of ridicule on some kink forums but 50 shades! Looks at the uproar that created. Yet someone women did try and take ownership of things and say hey I like this but then it went very quiet.
However kink seems to be more acceptable if its a women dominating a man. The vanilla people seem to accept that more but the other way round and you get furious social media posts and emails to the producers complaining about it.
Add something else into this situation and it changes again. Lesbian. I am gay and I am happy to be me however I am also supposed to be a poster girl for being gay, being open honest almost shouting this from the roof tops. Actually I prefer to keep my sex life private.
I only come to forums like this because I can talk openly and say what I like without worry.
Now add kink to lesbian scenes in tv shows or film or books and its porn. The vanilla people don't like this partly I think because they don't know what to do or what they are suppose to do and think about it. Like oh she's a woman and she's tied to her bed and thats wrong because women have to be strong and free and things but there is another women and she tied the first women to the bed and she let her. Vanilla's do not understand this at all. Also lesbians on tv must be butch! Actually I have never been attracted to butch women I like feminine women like myself. I love pretty girlie things and I love to shop I love shoes I love handbags makeup and all those things. That confuses them too because its not the stereotype they are familiar with. The vanillas think that in a lesbian relationship one of the women must be playing the part of the man. lol This is sooo not true at all even with butch girls.
I know I have rambled on a lot and seem like I am on my soapbox but I wanted to say this. In short yes I am a woman who likes all the usual girlie things we women like but I am gay and I also really enjoy kink and fetish. I love dressing up for fun and I like feeling sexy it makes me feel powerful and attractive because we like to have the attention on us. Like I said in another post about hobble skirts. We have all these different kinds of skirts because we like how get the attention. Some women like to say hey are you looking at me because of my short skirt? Okay but don't look too much, also don't ignore me. lol we are funny I know but this is what the world has made us.
I love kink I love dressing up so I suppose thats my fetish? I also love dressing up as a maid a French maid which seems to be something crossdressers also like. I don't mind I accept people if they accept me. I love being tied up and slowly teased I even like being tickled a little hehe but god not too much please!
I like some gags ball ones and soft cloth ones. I like being spanked and cropped a little bit too. I really love toys and I know some women do not like them but I love them, strap on sex is my favourite. That is hard to do when you are single though.
I have fantasies and women we love our fantasies although again society wants us to keep that very quiet. I have lots of fantasies one of them I posted in the do this to me topic. I also have a very naughty school girl fantasy which is actually quite strict and is probably my most strict one for being punished I think. Haha I'm blushing now writing this.
So do women like kink and fetish yes we do, not all of us but we do and power exchange seems to be the most common fantasy of all I think.
Again sorry for rambling on and posting in an old topic.
Lisa x
Its true today being female you are expected to be all sorts of things and a lot of them contradictory. What I mean is we are still expected to be prim and proper but free and able to express ourselves.
We must be successful too. However not everyone wants to try and get the top job. We must be able to say hey look at me I am woman and I am strong and independent but we are also expected to be feminine and demure and delicate.
Thats just normal life when you put sex into things it gets really complicated.
How many times do you see complaints about a tv show or film where a female character is captured by the bad guys and needs rescuing or a sexy scene that reveals more of her than typically of him?
Do you ever see complains about men in these situations?
Add kink into this, I know its old now and been a topic of ridicule on some kink forums but 50 shades! Looks at the uproar that created. Yet someone women did try and take ownership of things and say hey I like this but then it went very quiet.
However kink seems to be more acceptable if its a women dominating a man. The vanilla people seem to accept that more but the other way round and you get furious social media posts and emails to the producers complaining about it.
Add something else into this situation and it changes again. Lesbian. I am gay and I am happy to be me however I am also supposed to be a poster girl for being gay, being open honest almost shouting this from the roof tops. Actually I prefer to keep my sex life private.
I only come to forums like this because I can talk openly and say what I like without worry.
Now add kink to lesbian scenes in tv shows or film or books and its porn. The vanilla people don't like this partly I think because they don't know what to do or what they are suppose to do and think about it. Like oh she's a woman and she's tied to her bed and thats wrong because women have to be strong and free and things but there is another women and she tied the first women to the bed and she let her. Vanilla's do not understand this at all. Also lesbians on tv must be butch! Actually I have never been attracted to butch women I like feminine women like myself. I love pretty girlie things and I love to shop I love shoes I love handbags makeup and all those things. That confuses them too because its not the stereotype they are familiar with. The vanillas think that in a lesbian relationship one of the women must be playing the part of the man. lol This is sooo not true at all even with butch girls.
I know I have rambled on a lot and seem like I am on my soapbox but I wanted to say this. In short yes I am a woman who likes all the usual girlie things we women like but I am gay and I also really enjoy kink and fetish. I love dressing up for fun and I like feeling sexy it makes me feel powerful and attractive because we like to have the attention on us. Like I said in another post about hobble skirts. We have all these different kinds of skirts because we like how get the attention. Some women like to say hey are you looking at me because of my short skirt? Okay but don't look too much, also don't ignore me. lol we are funny I know but this is what the world has made us.
I love kink I love dressing up so I suppose thats my fetish? I also love dressing up as a maid a French maid which seems to be something crossdressers also like. I don't mind I accept people if they accept me. I love being tied up and slowly teased I even like being tickled a little hehe but god not too much please!
I like some gags ball ones and soft cloth ones. I like being spanked and cropped a little bit too. I really love toys and I know some women do not like them but I love them, strap on sex is my favourite. That is hard to do when you are single though.
I have fantasies and women we love our fantasies although again society wants us to keep that very quiet. I have lots of fantasies one of them I posted in the do this to me topic. I also have a very naughty school girl fantasy which is actually quite strict and is probably my most strict one for being punished I think. Haha I'm blushing now writing this.
So do women like kink and fetish yes we do, not all of us but we do and power exchange seems to be the most common fantasy of all I think.
Again sorry for rambling on and posting in an old topic.
Lisa x
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No need to apologize at all. BoundAnna has accumulated a wealth of information over time. And always new information is added by new people that is useful for other new members to read.lisahs2 wrote:Again sorry for rambling on and posting in an old topic.
Just as your contribution can encourage others to consider who they are and what they can mean in this world. We are all human beings with our own desires and needs. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you are, each in his own way.
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I would say we have very few current events threads that could only be relevant at the time of original posting. Threads are not routinely locked for this reason. Besides, I hold the record for oldest thread revived. In my early days, I responded to a year old self bondage dare. I knew it would not be performed, at least not by the original poster, as the poster had not signed in since the day it was written. I was just using it for practice, and to see what the response would be, get a feel and feedback on my suggestions. The response was not favourable, but we have all learned to be much kinder to each other these days.
The age of this thread you are responding to today did not even occur to me, as it usually doesn't, by the way.
The age of this thread you are responding to today did not even occur to me, as it usually doesn't, by the way.
Bondage is like a foreign film without subtitles. Only through sharing and practice can we hope to understand.
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
A Jedi uses bondage for knowledge and defense, never for attack.
I am so smart! I am so smart! S-M-R-T!....I, I mean S-M-A-R-T!
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A very eloquent ramble, I'd say. I like it.
It hits the nail right on the head.
Keep right on rambling, Lisa!
Jenny.
It hits the nail right on the head.
Keep right on rambling, Lisa!
Jenny.
Helplessness is a doorway to the innermost reaches of the soul.
If my corset isn't tight, it just isn't right!
Kink is the spice of life!
Come to the Dark Side - we have cookies!
If my corset isn't tight, it just isn't right!
Kink is the spice of life!
Come to the Dark Side - we have cookies!
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Yea, very well said Lisa. Also, not the oldest reply I've seen on here! I've seen a reply to a 12 year old thread!