Porn & Masturbation Addiction Help and Treatment

[zappy]

My wife has been after me about computer pornography masturbation addiction for a long time and complains about how I do not give her (sexual) attention. She brought me to her sex therapist and the sex therapist set up a treatment plan that would use a medical device called an anti-porn aide which I found out is usually called a "chastity device." Though this video is humorous, this is kind of how I felt at the therapist office.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wguWGV3__ko

Is this good advice or is she a quack?

The steps I was told to follow were:
1. My wife would put on the anti-porn aide. (Break-In) She would then leave me at home and return sometime later in the day to remove.
2. A porn filter would be put on the computer, she would have the password.
3. If I want the filter unblocked, I would have to go to my wife, unless she would go away for more than a day, then it would remain unblocked regardless.
4. If my wife is not interested in sex, she would just unblock the site. However, if she wanted sex, I would have to perform a sex act she wanted and I would have to have an orgasm. If I do not feel like sex, then my
wife would put on the anti-porn aide. The aide would remain on until my wife turns the porn filter off, or have sex with my wife.
5. The aide would only be on if my wife wants sex, I refuse, and I want the filter off. She would not have to orgasm to get to the porn if I just screw her and I orgasm myself.
6. My wife can never say no to sex with me.
7. The therapist would act as doctor (psychologist) and my wife would have the role to nursing assistant. She would take care of me but follow the doctors orders. My wife's job is to protect me from the websites.
8. If I want to see porn, she has to drop everything and unblock the filter (or sex.) Same with asking for the removal of the aide.

The first problem I ran into was I got afraid and would not let my wife put the aide on, I got scared because of not being able to orgasm. The therapist was very smart and already knew the reason said that not to worry, the whole idea is to be afraid of the aide. My wife said the therapist told her in a prior session that men would do anything to get out of the aide. The therapist said that I needed to be in the breaking period for 1 time only to transfer the power of the porn site owners to my wife. I would have a huge impulse to masturbate to orgasm and become fixated on my wife instead of the porn. Since I would not let my wife put on the aide in the private area of the office, the next session the therapist will help me with my phobia about putting it on.

After we left I decided to pretend to be wearing the aide and it would be impossible to masturbate. I definitely felt a huge amount of anxiety and wanted to masturbate. On one hand pretending to have the aide on got me horny, on the other hand the thought of me not be able to masturbate actually got me physically nauseous. In the night I press my thing against a pillow and orgasm-ed, something that is normally impossible for me, but I wanted to not use my hands. The therapist was not kidding when she said most men would do anything to have it taken off. I need to know my wife's power is stronger than the porn power. The therapist compared it to wild animal trainers that will introduce himself to an animal by immediately showing who is boss.

The next session will be overcoming my phobia. The plan is for my wife to put on the aide in the private area at the office so if I have any anxieties I can get help from the therapist. Then my wife would drop me off at home but keep her cell phone on if I can't take it. There is a certain amount of time I need to be on it, but I cannot know.

The therapist said that like a dog will love whoever feeds it, a man will obsess over whoever controls and supplies the orgasm. Because I have to go through my wife to see porn, remove the aide, and orgasm, my focus will be on her. My thinking will change. The immediate goal is not to get me to stop seeing porn, the goal is to get me to screw a real woman again. I was told that years ago there were no hot cheerleader lesbian cheerleader porn so there was nothing to compete with the wife. Internet technology is working against the wife, the porn filter and the anti-porn aide is a way to counter the website owners. The problem, as I was told, was not that I had a masturbation compulsion problem per se. My problem is not being able to handle technology that humans did not evolve to be able to handle.

When I was alone with the therapist I was told that I had a good wife that cares for me but sometimes wives will go off the deep end power hungry by being manipulative when the husband asks for the aide to be removed. For example, a wife might say "OK, as soon as I get this done, if I had help it would go faster." It is considered unethical behavior to take advantage of vulnerable persons. Some wives delay taking off the aide becasue they are insecure and do not like the loss of infatuation after orgasm or to make the husband hornier. A warning sign is if she says "I'm afraid to take it off because you will lose my love for me." She said if my wife evers does this immediately call her office. If I do not demands will grow. I am also to use only plastic aides, no titanium. My wife was told all of this also, when she was without me. I was warned that although she hopes we continue going to her, if we in the future change therapists, be careful of unethical sex therapists, especially ones with low credentials. The unethical sex therapist actually works for the wife, because she is the one who pays and will help her manipulate the husband. If I run into this I would need to get documentation and report to the licensing board, because in her words "This is not a game."

If I do wear the aide I would need to be monitored by a urologist for safety. The therapist said the psychologists test she did on me said that if I do wear the device to see porn instead of sex with my wife, I would be literally begging my wife to take off the aide. Aide off, porn re-blocked until after sex. She said 99.999% of men would do anything to get out of the aide after 5 minutes of porn, but if it is on at all I would still need to be monitored by an urologist.

One alternative to this this porn addiction plan would be Viagra. I know the porn is affecting my mental health because having a problem getting it up for a real sex as opposed to chronic masturbation is a sign of a problem.

I will ask if I can just skip the breaking in and do the rest. Can I stop with this method? Are there any husbands here that have experience with this? Is her advice competent or quackery?

[gemt]

It is difficult to know whether the suggested therapy is best for you, as we are not you.
Certainly if you yourself acknowledge that you have a problem with porn addiction such that it is harming your relationship then something should be done.

Perhaps as a compromise you could have a second key that you keep off-site, perhaps at your workplace.
Ideally keep that key in a lockbox, and the key to that hidden at home.
If you feel you are being refused access, you only have to last until the next working day.
However, unless you make the active decision to take the lockbox key in , you can't trivially get relief.

[ponylady]

LOL

this is for real ?

[Sir Cumference]

LOL

this is for real ?

My thought too!
A therapist prescribing a chastity device is not exactly SOP.

[Veronica]

6. My wife can never say no to sex with me.

WOW that's some bullshit.

edit- I see that the video was removed for spam/scam activity.