The public, and planning your scenario

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The public, and planning your scenario

Post by lj »

In the BDSM world, there is an important basic principle. What is done, is done with the consent of all involved. Often, this involves negotiated limits, there may be some things a submissive does not want to do and declares that a "hard limit" The Dominant respects that limit. Of course, in self-bondage, you are both Dominant and submissive, so you are negotiating and agreeing with yourself. But what happens when the scenario gets other people involved?

For example, you do one of the commonly discussed scenarios involving restraining yourself in a hotel room. There is an underlying risk that you may be discovered, unexpectedly, by the hotel staff - cleaning, bringing a meal etc. This represents an element of excitement. You have set the restraints and your release method, you are confident that it will work and you expect to be released well before anyone is likely to enter your room. This is "Case A".

Now, let's look at an alternative, "Case B". You set the restraints but deliberately do NOT have any release method, but have left a note at Reception asking to be woken, without fail at some time. You are relying on a staff member to come and find you helpless.

Another example. You are a male, you go to a secluded spot in a forest that you found, you choose to dress in a very "slutty" fashion and restrain yourself to a tree, with a good release method, and an emergency release. You found this spot by accident, there's no obvious path leading to it, but there is just a possibility that a walker might happen upon it, bringing that extra bit of excitement. This is "Case A"

And the alternative. As before, male, slutty dress, but you restrain yourself to some fencing beside a quiet street near a shopping mall, and you hang a sign from your chained body reading "Use and abuse me". You have a friend who will release you in a few hours. This is "Case B"

And another example. You are a cross-dresser, quite convincing but not perfect. You spend the day in the shopping mall, buying some new clothes, sitting in a cafe with a coffee, even perhaps chatting to someone. "Case A"

Or you cross-dress in a slutty way, wear a studded collar, strut around the place and make sure everyone in the mall notices you. You've guessed it, Case B.

In the above examples, with "Case A", there is a small chance a member of the public may become involved in what you do, but that isn't your intention, just a quiet scenario and a bit of excitement supplied by the small risk. In "Case B" you are deliberately trying to involve the public. "Case B" scenarios are NOT acceptable, the unfortunate public did not consent to being involved in your scenario. The consequences of "Case B" scenarios range from publicity, police involvement, and legal action through to violent or sexual assault.

So when you are contemplating your scenario, remember, the public have not given their consent.
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