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Seriously?

Postby CheerfullyInsane » 27 Apr 2021, 09:04

In case you thought only Dom(mes) get braindead people in their inbox......

Bear in mind that I don't know this person, haven't a clue who he is.
Apparently we share a few groups on Discord, so one day he just popped up in my DMs.
And this is how he chooses to introduce himself.....

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I know I'm getting up there age-wise, and there's every chance I'm sounding like a cranky old git, but.....
The merest hint of a slight possibility of manners potentially being in a conversation would be nice. :mrgreen:
Gawd almighty...Just when you think the internet can't possibly get any dumber, some bright trailblazer shows up to prove me wrong. :rofl:
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Re: Seriously?

Postby lj » 27 Apr 2021, 09:37

are you a cranky old git, or a Cranky Old Git ?

just asking...

:rofl:

sadly there are far too many idiots who think they can take on the role of Dom (you rarely get Dommes behaving this way) without first establishing willingness expressed by their assumed submissive. I particularly like the ones who are not Dom, but the far superior "Master" but aged 18 and living at home with Mum and Dad.
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Re: Seriously?

Postby kinbaku » 27 Apr 2021, 22:04

With a good Dom, the Sub is in charge. Although it doesn't seem like it, the Sub always has the last word and the Dom adapts to it. That is why that relationship must first arise between the two.
Just my thought. :facepalm:
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Re: Seriously?

Postby bound_jenny » 27 Apr 2021, 23:33

CheerfullyInsane wrote:The merest hint of a slight possibility of manners potentially being in a conversation would be nice.


I wholeheartedly second that! Good manners will get people on my good side any day of the week. 8)

And that guy is a complete jerk. :facepalm:

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Re: Seriously?

Postby CheerfullyInsane » 28 Apr 2021, 00:34

lj wrote:are you a cranky old git, or a Cranky Old Git ?


Get off my lawn!....Damn kids these days....
Does that answer your question? :mrgreen:

sadly there are far too many idiots who think they can take on the role of Dom (you rarely get Dommes behaving this way) without first establishing willingness expressed by their assumed submissive. I particularly like the ones who are not Dom, but the far superior "Master" but aged 18 and living at home with Mum and Dad.


Yeah, his username did raise a flag or two, but I figured I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. God knows approaching anyone can be something of a challenge.
That didn't last long, mind you.
And had he come back with an apology, and a desire to learn more about me, I'd have been happy to oblige.
But it's been my experience that the people who feel the need to strut, are usually the ones with little confidence in the first place.

kinbaku wrote:With a good Dom, the Sub is in charge. Although it doesn't seem like it, the Sub always has the last word and the Dom adapts to it. That is why that relationship must first arise between the two.
Just my thought. :facepalm:


Couldn't agree more. Besides, nobody in their right mind would consider behaving like this IRL.
Exactly why some people think it's okay to do so online completely eludes me.

bound_jenny wrote:I wholeheartedly second that! Good manners will get people on my good side any day of the week. 8)


Yeah, it's not that hard, is it?
A polite introduction and an inquiry as to whether I was actually available for whatever he had in mind would've eased the process immeasurably.
For all I know, it could even have been fun. But not when he's trying to start off in that particular manner.

And that guy is a complete jerk. :facepalm:


Understatement of the decade. :rofl:

I just don't get it. I mean, I contacted an online Domme earlier this year (completely unrelated, just for comparison) and the first thing I did was ask whether she even had time and interest in taking on someone like me. Then introduced myself and what I was looking for, and we went from there.
It never occurred to me to make demands of a complete stranger.

First time this has happened to me, so I'm a little shocked to be honest.
I get that most people on e.g. social media have the intelligence and manners of a demented duckling. Just never thought I'd see such brazenly poor behavior in a D/s community.
Ah well, live and learn. :)
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Re: Seriously?

Postby bound_jenny » 28 Apr 2021, 07:45

CheerfullyInsane wrote:
bound_jenny wrote:And that guy is a complete jerk.

Understatement of the decade.


A jerk and a half? Plus taxes and shipping? :mrgreen:

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Re: Seriously?

Postby CheerfullyInsane » 28 Apr 2021, 08:06

bound_jenny wrote:A jerk and a half? Plus taxes and shipping? :mrgreen:

:rofl:

Don't forget I'm European. There'll be import-tariffs as well. :lol:
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Re: Seriously?

Postby Lyn » 28 Apr 2021, 16:37

That is hilarious! Probably someone that likes to provoke or shock, or either is inexperienced like the aforementioned 18 year old and just doesn't know any better.

I think your response to him is perfect!

The only time that sort of thing would be okay is if you are on a server that by default, just by creating an avatar you are consenting to "non-consensual" stuff. Like in multiplayer roleplay gaming, they have "PvP" servers, player vs player (as opposed to player vs AI), and simply by creating a character there you are consenting to be attacked and even "killed" by strangers. Most aren't sexual in nature though, but there was at least one game that had a sexual and kinky dimension, that I joined very briefly, but was way too shy to actually participate and left quickly. This game had BDSM features but wasn't focused just on that. Like any multiplayer game, you worked for wealth and power, but this one you could do X-rated things and you could capture people and dominate them "against their will" but of course, just by being in the game you were consenting and it was of course all virtual. That game no longer exists.

But presumably your Discord isn't any such thing, just a social media gathering place, and in that context this is completely inappropriate. I can see the fantasy attraction of being dominated by random strangers, but it's only fun in fantasy. The gaming situations I describe are tightly contained in that playpen you've agreed to when you got into it, and the hard limits are built into the game design. That's an entirely different thing than open ended social media situations with real life people approaching you totally presumptuous like that.
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Re: Seriously?

Postby kinbaku » 28 Apr 2021, 23:34

Lyn wrote:But presumably your Discord isn't any such thing, just a social media gathering place, and in that context this is completely inappropriate.

Certainly true. I use Discord to teach children. I dare not think about them if they were approached like that. :shock: :whip: :evil:
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Re: Seriously?

Postby CheerfullyInsane » 01 May 2021, 03:43

kinbaku wrote:Certainly true. I use Discord to teach children. I dare not think about them if they were approached like that. :shock: :whip: :evil:


Oh, I don't think you have to worry about that. Discord is basically a smaller version of the WWW, with all that it entails. You can get gardening tips, movie recommendations or learn how to make explosives, all depending on the channels you look at.
Only reason I got approached was that we shared some channels that were.....Well, they didn't specialize in gardening, let's leave it at that. :D
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Re: Seriously?

Postby kinbaku » 01 May 2021, 07:37

CheerfullyInsane wrote:Only reason I got approached was that we shared some channels that were.....Well, they didn't specialize in gardening, let's leave it at that. :D
:rofl:
And we have a moderator at the school who supervises everything on Discord. Together with the supervision of the director and the teachers, there is little danger. I am only afraid if students start using it outside the school environment because the program is installed on their computer.
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Re: Seriously?

Postby Shannon SteelSlave » 04 May 2021, 17:16

It looks like BDSM boot camp to me. Not everyone is looking for that.
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Re: Seriously?

Postby Gregovic » 04 May 2021, 18:25

kinbaku wrote:
CheerfullyInsane wrote:Only reason I got approached was that we shared some channels that were.....Well, they didn't specialize in gardening, let's leave it at that. :D
:rofl:
And we have a moderator at the school who supervises everything on Discord. Together with the supervision of the director and the teachers, there is little danger. I am only afraid if students start using it outside the school environment because the program is installed on their computer.


You think your students weren't already using Discord before 2020? I hate to disappoint you, but everyone and their mother just about has their own Discord or is at least ON discord for all kinds of different things.
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Re: Seriously?

Postby kinbaku » 05 May 2021, 08:37

Gregovic wrote:You think your students weren't already using Discord before 2020? I hate to disappoint you, but everyone and their mother just about has their own Discord or is at least ON discord for all kinds of different things.

Yes, ten years ago I started tutoring math in the kids' bedroom where there was a computer with an internet-connection. There I caught the kids watching porn. :oops: :rofl:
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Re: Seriously?

Postby bound_jenny » 06 May 2021, 00:29

kinbaku wrote:There I caught the kids watching porn.


Doing what comes naturally. :mrgreen:

In prehistoric times (B.I. - before Internet :shock: ), it was the Sears Catalog women's underwear and lingerie section. :lol:

Or one of the porn magazines hidden in a box under the bed. :wink:

Technology changes, but basic human nature doesn't... :rofl:

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