confessions of a single dad (part 2)

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confessions of a single dad (part 2)

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Ok firstly sorry for the life story but I just started writing and it all just came out
I also failed to mention I am a 38 year old male in the south east of uk (if you were interested )

Well now we can get to the interesting bit
I have always enjoyed working out new fun games to make cuming more interesting and learning what I like and don't like on the way ...

I have had experiments that went well but mostly ideas that are great in theory but in reality it's not quite as good as advertised


I love feeling out of control I was happy to try a fetish to see if I liked it .. I tried women's clothing but I soon realized I was more interested in the risk of getting caught than I was about the clothing. when I tried in private it doesn't do much for me at all


I love being teased and denial ... I love being kept in the edge for ages and waiting for permission to cum
sadly I have only been able to experience this in my own through chat or text

but the feeling afterwards is so intense when I do cum I didn't want to spoil it by cuming early
if I did the orgasm always felt empty and ruined

a few times I have tried anal play but really "sex and shit shouldn't be mixed" it sort of works but mostly these experiments have failed.

I did try estim which I love and eventually upgraded to a proper electrastim
but doing it too often makes you numb and since it takes a while to make me cum anyway I am a little scared I am going to fry my cock so much I might end up not cuming at all!!!

so recently I decided to try chastity again.

this has some sociological strings to it (hence the back story)

but I decided a year ago to get a much stricter cage (a really small one) so I wouldn't have the movement to "fuck it"

I have tried it a few times ... it's a metal one but never tried for long.

but I came across an app called chastikey (not sure if it's on Android... I have an iPhone)

then purchased a combination key safe

I have to admit this is amazing the cage was heavy and I was always afraid it would make me sore but I realised I could deal with it and even have my hour lunchtime walks in it

but the real question was night times (this is usually when I chicken out and unlock myself)

but the bot key holder kept me in it and I couldn't get free so I was forced to deal to deal with it. I didn't get much sleep (two nights ago) but kept it on the next day ... and the bot didn't release me the second night either

it gives you cards to chose some to increase the time others to reduce and you can give control to the bot who can change the rules when it likes ..

this kept me in very intense frustration

so decided to see just how well I was trapped.

I watched all my favorite porn and although I could just feel myself thorough the bars I really couldn't feel enough!!!
plus when I tried to "fuck it" I found it very difficult to feel through the bars and mostly ended up bit feeling anything at all!!

the frustration was getting very intense but I just couldn't stop and I tried everything I could think of.

till eventually I worked out I could massage the base of my cock and after an hour of frustration I finally exploded to one of the most intense orgasms I have ever had ...

I realise I "defeated the purpose of the cage" but seriously with all that effort I can live with that

(this was last night)

and although I was feeling very content I was still locked and the bot wasn't budging

eventually it gave in at 4am this morning and once out I had another amazing cum...

so far this experiment has been a success... I am guessing it's still not as good as having a real keyholder to tease and take advantage of my situation ... but still overall a win.

I have noone to tell my little life-changing adventure to so thought I would reach out to you guys and gals and help me get the experience off by chest.

ok took me an hour to write all that and it's almost 6am!!

I'm going to be knackard later ... luckily I work from home now so can squeeze in a nap later ..

unless I am tempted to lock myself again.

has anyone else tried chastiock?

is it better when there is a real key holder?
I am guessing that really depends on the person
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Re: confessions of a single dad (part 2)

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Wow, that's quite a life story. Kudos to you for being a good dad. I understand about not having anyone to tell your story to, although I'm married and can share with my husband, still it is limited, there are some things I don't even share with him, and I don't tell anyone else about our kink life, and that's one reason I signed up on this forum, as an outlet to talk about it, if I ever do. I'm still really shy. I often wonder how many others around me are kinky but you'd never know it. Are some of my family members or friends into it? If they are as secretive as I am, I would never know, after a lifetime even. Are there coworkers that are wearing chastity devices under their suits? It would be really cool to be able to talk about it with a close friend or family member but what if you both are way too private to ever bring it up and you go decades and then to your grave having missed out on this important part of your lives you could have talked about with each other?

It makes me sad to think there are people who would love a like minded partner but how to find one? Unless you join a local BDSM club but the more introverted and secretive of us aren't comfortable with that. I lucked out with my husband. I told him before we married and he was willing to try it, but still I held back a lot and we didn't do much until the kids were grown and gone. But now it turns out he's taking a keen interest in it. Maybe deep down he was always a bit kinky in fantasy but wasn't comfortable expressing it.

Anyway I'm rambling. I appreciate your story.
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We are very complex creatures - there is no "one size fits all" when it comes to sexual pursuits (or anything else really!) but as a basic thought, sex is best, in all its manifestations, when it is shared (again, pretty much like anything else!)

I won't bore you with my life history (reading my posts will give a good idea) but I joined this site as my first direct statement that I am kinky, admitting it to myself by making it public, albeit in a restricted group, here on this forum. This led on to going to a Munch, which seemed a huge step at the time, but I met some lovely people, some of whom are still my good friends, as I am now not really active in "the scene". I was very lucky that my vanilla wife was willing to try the kink life, even more lucky as we had been married for well over 30 years before she found out. If you are kinky and want to progress from solo activity, make that huge/tiny step. You won't regret it. And I know several very shy introverts who have taken that step successfully - actually you will find the kink world contains a representative sample of the general population, the main difference being the willingness to accept other people's sexuality and kinks without judgement.

You might be surprised to find who is a fellow kinkster - I recall one guy I knew from the corporate world, purely professional contact, no inkling of kink, until we met again a few years later at a play-party at his house !

As to chastity, but again like most kink activity, having a partner makes it more fun, simply because it introduces unpredictability and the potential for loving relationships (and I don't necessarily mean sexual ones - I had a lesbian play partner, we had a lot of fun but there was never a sexual relationship in the conventional sense).

Simply locking yourself up in a chastity device may be arousing and exciting for a while, but in my experience becomes simply annoying over an extended time. You can add an element of excitement by having some form of randomness as to release. I recently tried using one of two identical padlocks, with just one key in my workplace, and picking one lock at random, locking the device and going to work - the laws of chance will eventually even out the ability to open the lock to 50:50, but in practice it took 6 or 7 locked days before the key fitted the chosen lock! Others have used the various key-boxes, computer-based locking, internet-based locking and remote key-holders to introduce random release. But there is no doubt that having a partner determining release is much more exciting/demanding, particularly when teasing/denial is introduced.

to quote Lyn "but what if you both are way too private to ever bring it up and you go decades and then to your grave having missed out on this important part of your lives you could have talked about with each other?"

wise question - the answer - take the huge/tiny step - get out and meet people in the kink world and see what happens.
be a switch, double the fun :-)
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Re: confessions of a single dad (part 2)

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hey thank you for such a quick reply.

yes I totally agree "kink" seems to be a taboo and obscure cult to the the word "relationship"

from what I have gathered it's rather pot luck of you get a partner that happens to enjoy the same kinks

I have tried the online dating idea. but to be honest unless you actually meet you never seem to know if you will get on or not.

plus it's absolutely riddled with scams and time wasters.

I would be interested in moving to a real key holder as I find the self bondage is ok but really I want a women to tease and take advantage ...

but finding someone online is such a risky business ... I want to hand over full control and feel totally helpless ...

but let's face it that's the best way to let yourself get scammed. or worse !
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And there is always the possibility that you will meet someone in the "normal" world that you become friends with. After a while when you trust each other you can - take the huge/tiny step - and ask her what she thinks about it. Even if it turns out to be disappointing, you have a new girlfriend that way.
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