Self bondage scenarios that could be engaging for a partner?
Posted: 24 Oct 2016, 17:53
Hey guys, wasn't sure whether to put this in selfbondage, or bondage.
In just over a week, my fiancée and I move out into a place of our own!
During the day, I sometimeshave urges to be in some form of bondage, which is why I really wanted to explore selfbondage further than I did before some time after we settle in our new home. Though I last tried selfbondage over a year and a half ago, it's been a long time, and the further experience I've had is with being chained to a bed with about 3m of chain. I enjoyed feeling trapped in a bit of a predicament, though since introducing my partner to kink, I felt less of a need for selfbondage.
My partner understands that I really enjoy being restrained in some way - she wanted to tie me up at the weekend, got lost with the rope having a hard time creating something through experimenting (she has done before, and oh boy she underestimates herself ), the result of this unfortunately ending slightly in tears due to "not being good".... I reassured that bondage isn't all about rope, that not everyone will enjoy working with rope due to the process involved in tying, that while I enjoy tying her up when the tables are turned, that it needn't be the same when she's on top; for example there's chains, handcuffs and many other alternatives.... I think I reassured her, though she doesn't like complicated setups.
In any case, kink isn't something new, it's.... somewhat difficult to come up with scenarios that work. I'm very much the type of person that feels there might not be as much magic of the moment if I try to present an idea as I can predict what will happen, resulting in well, an anticlimactic experience. This is partly why I feel I should dive more into selfbondage, I get too wrapped in the want for my fiancée to stage something, that I unintentionally put pressure on her. So what I wanted to achieve is something simple, but inviting for my partner.
Do any of you have a particular favourite bondage position that allows your partner to be able to interact a lot with the scene, or something simple where they can tag in and out as they please? If you have any questions regarding my situation, I'd be happy to try my best to answer.
Thanks everyone
In just over a week, my fiancée and I move out into a place of our own!
During the day, I sometimeshave urges to be in some form of bondage, which is why I really wanted to explore selfbondage further than I did before some time after we settle in our new home. Though I last tried selfbondage over a year and a half ago, it's been a long time, and the further experience I've had is with being chained to a bed with about 3m of chain. I enjoyed feeling trapped in a bit of a predicament, though since introducing my partner to kink, I felt less of a need for selfbondage.
My partner understands that I really enjoy being restrained in some way - she wanted to tie me up at the weekend, got lost with the rope having a hard time creating something through experimenting (she has done before, and oh boy she underestimates herself ), the result of this unfortunately ending slightly in tears due to "not being good".... I reassured that bondage isn't all about rope, that not everyone will enjoy working with rope due to the process involved in tying, that while I enjoy tying her up when the tables are turned, that it needn't be the same when she's on top; for example there's chains, handcuffs and many other alternatives.... I think I reassured her, though she doesn't like complicated setups.
In any case, kink isn't something new, it's.... somewhat difficult to come up with scenarios that work. I'm very much the type of person that feels there might not be as much magic of the moment if I try to present an idea as I can predict what will happen, resulting in well, an anticlimactic experience. This is partly why I feel I should dive more into selfbondage, I get too wrapped in the want for my fiancée to stage something, that I unintentionally put pressure on her. So what I wanted to achieve is something simple, but inviting for my partner.
Do any of you have a particular favourite bondage position that allows your partner to be able to interact a lot with the scene, or something simple where they can tag in and out as they please? If you have any questions regarding my situation, I'd be happy to try my best to answer.
Thanks everyone