Self bondage scenarios that could be engaging for a partner?

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Self bondage scenarios that could be engaging for a partner?

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Hey guys, wasn't sure whether to put this in selfbondage, or bondage.

In just over a week, my fiancée and I move out into a place of our own!

During the day, I sometimeshave urges to be in some form of bondage, which is why I really wanted to explore selfbondage further than I did before some time after we settle in our new home. Though I last tried selfbondage over a year and a half ago, it's been a long time, and the further experience I've had is with being chained to a bed with about 3m of chain. I enjoyed feeling trapped in a bit of a predicament, though since introducing my partner to kink, I felt less of a need for selfbondage.

My partner understands that I really enjoy being restrained in some way - she wanted to tie me up at the weekend, got lost with the rope having a hard time creating something through experimenting (she has done before, and oh boy she underestimates herself :wink: ), the result of this unfortunately ending slightly in tears due to "not being good".... I reassured that bondage isn't all about rope, that not everyone will enjoy working with rope due to the process involved in tying, that while I enjoy tying her up when the tables are turned, that it needn't be the same when she's on top; for example there's chains, handcuffs and many other alternatives.... I think I reassured her, though she doesn't like complicated setups.

In any case, kink isn't something new, it's.... somewhat difficult to come up with scenarios that work. I'm very much the type of person that feels there might not be as much magic of the moment if I try to present an idea as I can predict what will happen, resulting in well, an anticlimactic experience. This is partly why I feel I should dive more into selfbondage, I get too wrapped in the want for my fiancée to stage something, that I unintentionally put pressure on her. So what I wanted to achieve is something simple, but inviting for my partner.

Do any of you have a particular favourite bondage position that allows your partner to be able to interact a lot with the scene, or something simple where they can tag in and out as they please? If you have any questions regarding my situation, I'd be happy to try my best to answer.

Thanks everyone :D
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If she is having a hard time to come up with ideas, and you don't want the scene to be predictable from a to z, why not give her a huge list of things you'd like, and simply state: just choose from these.

That way, you know that what she'll do is something you will enjoy (or not if you're really masochistic) and because the list is huge, and she won't do everything, you won't know for sure what will happen.

On the list, you obviously add: - surprise me which will indicate that she's open to fill it however she sees, and tell her she can mix items from the list to form something new (as in: only partially do something.

For example, if the list says: Tie me in a hogtie (arms behind my back, legs folded to the back, then arms and legs tied together. And also: Brace me (use something that is long and sturdy and use it as a brace for both my arms and legs so they are straight and unable to bend. Then make me do chores that require both my hands/arms and walking.

She could then combine it by tying the hands behind your back as done in a hogtie, brace the legs so they can't bend, put trousers on, jacket over your upper body, and take you outside for a long walk.

If you really want things to be spicy, deny yourself an orgasm for at least 2 weeks prior to making this huge list. Also, ensure that you watch porn for at least 10 minutes every day for these 2 weeks.

At the end you'll be so horny that you'll come up with more devious items on your list than you would otherwise. It'll definitely ensure that you'll dare to take the risk of setting the intensitiy a little higher which she likely will tone down anyway. So it should balance out pretty nicely.

If she at least likes kink stuff, she'll probably do like to watch bdsm related images and/or videos. If so, watch these together and tell her what you like so she can get ideas from those videos/images. Also, tell her that if she sees something interesting to ask you if you'd like it, in case she fears that you wouldn't like it.
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2 pairs of cuffs for each of you, fixed behind your back.

2 pairs of clover clamps with conneting chain, applied crossover to each nipple

and

a double gag that assures liplocking
(hint: petstore & a bit of DIY)

add more bondage to one hearts desire, enjoy, and don't forget to report back.
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Hawkward wrote: My partner understands that I really enjoy being restrained in some way - she wanted to tie me up at the weekend, got lost with the rope having a hard time creating something through experimenting (she has done before, and oh boy she underestimates herself :wink: ), the result of this unfortunately ending slightly in tears due to "not being good".... I reassured that bondage isn't all about rope, that not everyone will enjoy working with rope due to the process involved in tying, that while I enjoy tying her up when the tables are turned, that it needn't be the same when she's on top; for example there's chains, handcuffs and many other alternatives.... I think I reassured her, though she doesn't like complicated setups.
I don't know much about ropes. I believe it needs a lot of skill to use rope properly. Perhaps the answer is to keep things easy and quick to use. If you can have your equipment made to measure or pre-set, you know it will be secure but not too tight. Safety arrangements can be pre-planned or, even better, part of the equipment.

As an example, have chains pre-cut to the right length. If you need to lock them back to themselves to form a loop keep the lock in the right link so that when the last link is fastened to the lock the loop will be the right size. Alternatively mark the link where the lock should go.

You could have a pre-prepared loop of rope that you can put your hands through. All your partner needs to do is apply a clinch between your wrists and there you are.

For a couple of scenarios I used to keep a little kit with all the bits needed, including the emergency release things.

For most of our scenarios, things are even simpler for Mistress K since I can get myself in. All she has to do is order me to get in, check security if she wants to, have fun with me if she wants to or just take pleasure in knowing I'm secured and let me out when she wants to.

Of course, she is in charge. All I do is offer the kit I've prepared, for her to use if she wants to.
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Rope can be an art on its own.

If you want simple, safe, comfortable and effective bondage, consider cuffs or bondage tape.

Double carabiners and leather cuffs are my workhorses.
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I totally agree. If you have the time, the tying up part is just as engaging as being restricted in bondage.

Proper technique will make it so that you can tie up someone fast.

For example, I used to always tie rope as most people do. I grab the very end of the rope, make it go around what I want to tie, place a knot, then find out I have lots of rope to spare that needs to go somewhere too.

Now, the first thing I do is find the center of the rope, grab there and make it become 2 ropes. I wrap that around what I want to tie once, then make both ends go between the loop I created, then make the rest of the rope go the other direction until I have about 20 cm to 30 cm of rope left, times two ropes of course. Then I find that same loop again. Both go through, then I use the remainder rope to secure it in place. If I tie hands or feet like this, these rope go around the rope itself to make the space between the rope narrower, and thus closely bind everything together. The rope will be inescapable but more important: its far quicker to bind like this, more comfortable and best of all, it looks awesome too. If you carefully watch the professionals at various of kink.com sites, you'll notice this is how they tie their ropes too.
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