No orgasm Or Ruined

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No orgasm Or Ruined

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So i want to start a long term Chasity and i can't decide if i should no have any orgasm or every day edging and ruined orgasm.
I was thinking maybe someone here has more experience and can give me an advice or two. I want to be as frustrated as possible.

The way i was thinking was the fallowing

Every day watch porn or read a bondage story while edging myself atleast 4 times and then ruined orgasm at the end.
Once every two days give my gf a nice facesitting orgasm or howmany she wants.
Every four days some anal in the shower.

Count everytime i piss and spank myself that many times daily.
Count everytime i shit multiplied by ten and spank myself that many times daily.
(The spanking is because it makes me really horny but is not a need here).
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I think you are going about this from the wrong direction. I'm guessing you enjoy all the "punishments" you suggest, so you are getting some satisfaction from them but pretending to yourself that you are not.

If you have a girlfriend, get a good, well-fitting steel chastity device and give her the keys. Then she can make you as frustrated as SHE wants, which will be more frustrated than you wanted to be! She can be the one who initiates the edging and decide when and if you get the orgasms, ruined or otherwise.
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Re: No orgasm Or Ruined

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lj wrote:I think you are going about this from the wrong direction. I'm guessing you enjoy all the "punishments" you suggest, so you are getting some satisfaction from them but pretending to yourself that you are not.

If you have a girlfriend, get a good, well-fitting steel chastity device and give her the keys. Then she can make you as frustrated as SHE wants, which will be more frustrated than you wanted to be! She can be the one who initiates the edging and decide when and if you get the orgasms, ruined or otherwise.
I would actually love to be that simple , you see she is not into this kind of stuff , so everything is kinda hidden from me , and the quote on quote punishments like spanking and what not are to make me horny but i am not allowed to cum or i would get ruined. My big question for me since i am in control (wish i was not) , is if the ruined oragasm si more furstrating in the long term than no orgasm at all.
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Re: No orgasm Or Ruined

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I fully agree with lj here.

Wearing a chastity is nice and not getting an orgasm simply makes the other experiences even better until a certain time has elapsed (the time that no new cum is made. At this time things fade a little, but its still a better experience than normal routine.

Do keep in mind that without cumming, your body will not fully relax. If you are not fit in medical terms, this could lead to weird and undesired results. An orgasm every week or month can prevent or help with this from a medical point of view.

Yes, the frustration can have negative side effects, but only if you're not fully fit. For that reason I would suggest to stop the chastity play when you get an illness, get an orgasm when you feel like one and resume the chastity play once the illness is completely cured.
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Re: No orgasm Or Ruined

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My Owner lets me tease myself and edge frequently. It was frustrating at first, but after a while, I got used to it.
I found, that edging in fact helps me to stay chaste.
Last year, early in November, I had the feeling, that it was getting too easy, so I told her and suggested not to touch for a while. What I had in mind was a week or two, but she decided on until christmas... :shock:
Early this year, she allowed me to cum a few times, with a week in between. I was seriously missing the constant arousal afterwards and suggested ruined orgasms. Same mistake... I expected 2 or 3, but she decided, that my next 10 orgasms will be ruined. It might be until next year, before I have a full one again...
What's most frustrating from my experience is slow stroking without edging 2 or 3 times a week, without touching in between. When you get used to it, mix in a day with edging as often as possible or a ruined orgasm...

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