A next step

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A next step

Postby sweh » 13 Jul 2018, 01:51

I've been playing with chastity for the past decade or so. Sites like carlilock and then emlalock have been great. My Lady would lock the key in a safe and set a session.

Mostly I've been locked for less than a week. My all-time high score is 1 week 6 days.

And, of course, I had an emergency release method to open the safe if necessary. Not that I _needed_ it... but it was there.

Now the week before July 4th I'd set a self-locked session. My lady allowed me to be free for Independence Day. But... and this is new... she took the key and told me to lock myself the next morning. I wasn't going to see her for another 5 days.

So that's a big step for me; the key wasn't available to me. No emergency release.

I next saw her 5 days later, on the 10th. She was willing to let me free, but I told her I didn't need it. Next morning I convinced her to keep the key. And I don't expect to see her for another 10 days. Which will mean at least 15 days locked. New high score!

What I didn't expect is that this _feels_ different. With an emlalock session you get a sense of investment in the session; you may have to play games, you can see people voting on you, you can vote on others. But this... there's nothing. I'm just locked. I have no early reprieve due to luck on wheel of fortune, or friendly voters. It just is. A fact of life.

Now my Lady is going on vacation soon; because of timings it may be 3 or 4 weeks after I next see her. I kind of have a fantasy that she'll keep the key.

The problem, of course, is reality. Night time erections are still waking me up. But maybe I need a month locked up to overcome this... or maybe I'll be very sleep deprived at the end. I don't know.

I would love for her to keep me locked while she's away. But I don't know if it's a good idea.
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Re: A next step

Postby Natashahousewife » 14 Jul 2018, 06:56

Hi. I’ve been locked on and off for 9 years I think now, but over the last 2 years it’s been permanent. I’m allowed out once a week to shave and clean.
The night erections stop, takes a while, but you stop getting turned on by it and it just becomes part of you. Honestly, when I’m out of my cages to clean I can’t wait for it to go back on. I almost feel safe in it now.
For some time I’ve been suffering with premature ejac, and after using a strap on for my wife a few times we decided that it was the right way to go. My wife isn’t particularly Domme, but she has enjoyed stopping my orgasms. I last had sex with it on my birthday which will be coming up to a year, and the deal was on my birthday I was getting let out for the day again.
Either sex, tied up and given oral, or a romantic girls night in (I am trans) and sex in our finest undies etc, but she suggested that I forgot it, and never be allowed to use it again. She enjoys using her vibrators on my cage to make me cum, but there’s no orgasm. I’m to let her know on the day. Once I’m awake, she will offer me the keys and I either take it off, wash, and dress, the chance to tuck it and wear a tight dress or even some leggings would be very nice, or hand her back the key and give up on physical contact with it for good.
I’d convinced myself this was what I wanted. Now it’s less than a month away I’m getting nervous.

I imagine it’s an even greater pleasure giving it over to someone you don’t see daily. Stick with it, and see how you feel. I couldn’t be without my cages now.
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Re: A next step

Postby Slave_L » 14 Jul 2018, 11:04

In the past, I worn a cage because of how I felt with the cage and how it would react with sexual activities.

For example, I get a hard one, but its blocked in the cage, which by itself is a turn on. It would be a method to say: I'm in chastity, so no orgasm.

Watching porn this way is very satisfying actually. So much different than watching porn while jerking off. Normally you watch porn until that orgasm, but since that is not going to come, you are far more selective in what you watch and for how long. With those pages of galleries, I often say: I'm going to watch the next 10 galleries. Or if the gallery does not include anything related to pain, then I have to watch another 10 galleries, and so on.

However, I have worn the chastity cage for several months as longest. At some point the whole chastity game felt like it wasn't the same anymore and I longed for orgasms more than anything. Not just because I was denied one, but because the whole chastity felt "well, I've done it."

So I took a few months break from wearing chastity, and at some point I longed for it again. Was going to do it for just a week, but that was a month ago, and I have given me an orgasm every once in a while, so I have to wear it for 4 more weeks. Every orgasm means, add 1 week to the session.

Currently, chastity is not the same as it used to be, but its still really nice. Its just different. It feels like an accessory to me, rather than sexual play. I'm sure things will change if someone else is in control though. I'm waiting for that. Until then, its just having fun. I'm not too strict with what I can and cannot do until that happens. Its meant to be fun.
I'm not yet very comfortable expressing my love for kink from my private life. I will therefor hide behind my username Slave_L and not allow any connections to who I really am. I'm sure you'll understand.
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Re: A next step

Postby greentea » 14 Jul 2018, 22:27

You could always have her hide the spare key somewhere in your house/apartment prior to her trup. You go into the bathroom and don't come out until she tells you to, during which time she hides it. I'm going to guess that every so often you both will talk to each other while she's gone, if you really need the key she could tell you where it is. Otherwise, happy tearing you place apart looking for it.
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