bound_jenny wrote: I do self-bondage as a pleasure, not as a pseudo-forced thing. Jenny.
that made me think a bit about my own motivation.
some of you will know I've more or less stopped SB as I have become active in partnered BDSM. A while ago I was enjoying a private session with a Dom (yes, a Dom, something of a departure for me, being strictly hetero, but so's he...can get a bit confusing ) I was cuffed, wrists and ankles, chained together, inside a leather sleepsack, with a hood and gag. Anyway, after a while I got a bit bored and realised the cuffs hadn't been padlocked, so I released myself, managed to unzip the sleepsack, took off the hood and gag, and wandered downstairs where he and his sub were having a quiet cup of tea and said hello.
After the initial surprise, we had a chat about it. He said he was surprised that I'd released myself, as most people in a similar position choose to stay there and not try to escape even if they can. Perhaps it's because I'm more Dom than sub (I'm a switch, after all) or just need a different thing from bondage. Suffice to say, I was put back in the sack, this time with leg irons, police handcuffs, and the sleepsack was chained shut and as a friendly gesture, a pair of vicious nipple clamps that I couldn't reach. Now that was fun