My final opportunity?

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noble
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My final opportunity?

Post by noble »

All of this is 100% true.
I have been into self-bondage for 60 years. Yes, you read it right.
It was both sad and scary back then, not knowing there was a name for it or if there was anybody else with that fetish.
You relative newcomers, with access to internet sites like Bound Anna, don't know how lucky you are.

In the past, on business trips out of town, I tried a couple of dominants. Both were a sad disappointment.
I just don't want to try something local for the rare chance that someone I know may see me.

For the past 25 years, self-bondage has done nothing for me. No erections, not even from play or interest or photos.
One thing I tried was to buy a chastity tube, both to stimulate the penis and, if it failed, punish it. It's the latter.
One day in a local "gentlemen's guide" I saw an ad for a place 80 miles from here. one hour denomination for $80.
(Considering being far from the Big City, it sounded like a small-tow / small-time operation.)
I called, and yes, they would "chain you up" and "whip your ass" for $80.
A week later, I called at a different time and another woman said the same, adding "plus tip."
Two weeks later, a different woman with same message, and when I asked if I had to be naked for the domination, said she was not allowed to answer that over the phone. And hung up. I took that for a "yes" and made plans to go.

The opportunity came a fortnight later. Nice weather and my wife had a class that night. I'd have five hours.
[She is not at all interested in my fetish, and thought I gave it up years ago. But she will bring me to orgasm via oral sex, while I think of bondage scenarios. But even that doesn't always produce results.]
I put on the chastity tube and locked it with a luggage-type combination lock.
Then a loose catsuit, with the back zipper locked via another combination lock, to a collar secured with a regular lock.
Over that, sweatpants and sweatshirt.
I had written a letter of instructions, a "reward" from my wife but also an explanation for the collar.
And it included the combination for the zipper's lock.
The place was a big trailer with ADULT ENTERTAINMENT written on the side.
I parked, put on my handcuffs (in front) and hid the car & handcuff keys.

Have you ever been here before? No. How long a session do you want? By now I was tight on time so I said 30 minutes.
I gave her $40 and she disappeared, then came back and led me to a small room with a small bed and bondage cross.
She said nothing about my wearing a collar or being handcuffed. Nor did she read my letter.
Now was the time to talk about the "tip." Not what any of us would expect from a restaurant type.
The initial $40 went to the woman who owned she place. This woman got none of it.
How much is the tip? I can't tell you.
How about $40? (That's all I had in my pocket.) That's not nearly enough.
How much, then? I can't tell you.
"I had regulars who are no trouble because I know what they want. With you, it will be effort to determine what you want." (I could have told her, and so could the letter.)
It was obvious that we were not on the same page, or would we be. She let me out the back door.

I got home a few minutes before when the wife should have been there, but the car was in the driveway.
I drove to the edge of a shopping mall parking lot, stripped, and put the sweat pants and shirt back on.
My biggest worry was enough light to see the tube's combination, but it was not as snug as I thought it was and had worked one ball free during the drive back.
I bought a Whopper and came back. She had been home for 40 minutes; class got out early.
I concocted a story on what it took 40 minutes to go to Burger King. She bought it.
I put all the night's stuff where she would not find it. And maybe it will stay there, never to be used again?
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Re: My final opportunity?

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Was the experience satisfactory? As in, are you happy in how it went? And if not, what would you've done differently if you were doing it again?
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Re: My final opportunity?

Post by FatherOfFour »

Well,
in my humble opinion,
there was no "experience", any more than being hustled for 80$

We all learn through all our life, and even the old and wise could make mistakes
(I don't see _any_ mistake in noble's story, but...)

Have fun, repeat
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There is a "Madam" near Chicago, about 60 miles from where I live.
I have been wondering about visiting her to "Tie Me Up" kind of a deal.
I want to be completely In-Mobil, not even to wiggle. I have a custom made
sensory hood, fits-mitts, Straitjacket, ETC.
She charges $ 500 for 2 hours.
I am still a little nerviness about going/
This would be a "Bucket List" idem for me.
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Re: My final opportunity?

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There is a huge difference between a prostitute who dresses up for a bit of kink, and a life-style ProDomme. I know none of the former but several of the latter.

The difference ? Both will charge money for their time, the first will know almost nothing about Domination, wrongly thinking it is dressing in black PVC or leather and beating the cr4p out of the client - that's just the fantasy/porn view. The second will discuss what the client wants, and if that fits with what she is happy to do, then it will be done to both party's satisfaction. The ProDomme will also NOT be supplying any form of sexual contact, though the client may possibly but not certainly be permitted to provide their own "release".

So how do you find the right type ?

Easy. Start with FetLife and search your, or the chosen distant, area and look for Munches and play-parties in that area. Make contacts, correspond with people in the scene, actually go to Munches etc. Failing that, ask people in the area about local Dommes and ProDommes, and then politely enquire direct. Quite a few lifestyle Dommes will have a "professional" alternative name, or their profile will include a link to their "professional" website.

Most ProDommes will make it very clear what they WON'T do, they aren't fetish delivery systems, they do their kink as part of their character and way of life.

The alternative approach is what I regularly bang on about, get involved in the local or not so local kink scene. I know some are living in the middle of nowhere, or in a closed-minded community, which makes this difficult, but if I can get into my UK scene at age 60, run a Munch for several years etc etc, so can most people if they really want to. As a result of that, I know several ProDommes, but I also know quite a few Dommes who would be happy to supply a scene, should I want to go down that route (but I'm married to one so I don't need to...not that I knew that 7 years ago)
be a switch, double the fun :-)
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Re: My final opportunity?

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The person I an thinking about is a Dom Pro.
This is all she does, and has many forms, IE
Baby, Nun, Nurse, western wear, Etc.
I am still a little nervous, and need to save up for
the BIG day.
Every time I get close to having the funds, Something
comes up, and well we start over again.
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Re: My final opportunity?

Post by noble »

Did I have a pleasant experience? No, frustrating and a loss of money. A psychological crushing.
I guess I should have been warned. A big sign in the middle of nowhere, along the interstate.
Not a small-town operation but one geared to truckers.
So if you are driving by Peru, Illinois, on I-80 and are tempted by the the sign, just keep going.

(It's too bad that there are not more clubs that have meetings where consenting adults can "play without pay.")
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If you wanted to do it again, what would you have done differently?
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I'm not yet very comfortable expressing my love for kink from my private life. I will therefor hide behind my username KinkInSpace and not allow any connections to who I really am. I'm sure you'll understand.
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Re: My final opportunity?

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What would I have done differently?
Used common sense - -like the old adage "If it looks too good to be true, it probably is."

Maybe Radar's dom is more of a sure bet, though costly. (Of course I never found out how much this one wanted.)
I've always wanted to know what kind of equipment they have before making a commitment.
But too often they don't want to answer over the phone. Money first, THEN you find out.
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Re: My final opportunity?

Post by ilikepain »

Ahh Noble, this makes me feel sad for you :( I know you're not looking for sympathy though. I'm not a top, but if I was near you I would have loved to do things right by you. Find out exactly what it is you're looking for and then deliver that for you. I'm sure there must be someone out there that can offer what it is you're looking for!!!

I hope you don't give up.
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Post by mymy42 »

As we say, we're always smarter after...

I would also follow Lj's advices on gathering info conscientiously before. Find out who could offer what you look for, get in touch, make sure they understand what you want and that both agree on the terms.

I have browsed through some Prodom websites and it's really well explained between what you can do/cannot do, what the Dom can do/will not do, and there must be always a briefing before to really agree on the "contract".
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Re: My final opportunity?

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Finding out details if often difficult, if not impossible.
They won't tell you anything over the phone. (Understandably.)
Ask about equipment and they give you a vague answer.
Do I have to be naked? I can't talk about that over the phone.
So you drop by in person and ask to see the dungeon.
Yes, but only after you have paid.
And so it goes.
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