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I am a long time reader of this and other sites, but now I've found that I need some actual back and forth about the kinks I'm interested in. A bit of background:

I am a 30-something married man. I've had interests in kink for as long I can remember and my wife knows this. My issues are that she isn't actually into them and the difference in our sex drive is fairly big (insert penis size joke here). She does indulge me every now and again, in which she seems to get quite wet, but I've found that is more of the loving relationship aspect where she can see the very obvious effect of whatever scenario we are doing. It boosts here confidence and she gets excited that she can turn me on, but she has no INTEREST in it herself. We've been married over a decade now, so I don't think that one day she will wake up and suddenly change, and I'm not sure I'd want her to either. But she has had self-confidence issues before and it stops her from doing anything unless I ask her to do it. She has even noticed my frustration at one point and told me that if I ever found someone to fulfill those sexual urges with me, that she would be OK with that. So you see why I would never do ANYTHING to jeopardize such an understanding relationship.

Kinks. Okay, so I'm not actually too deep in the S&M part of things. I can get behind the dominance games, but I'm now into pain for pain's sake. I don't mind slightly uncomfortable bondage because it reminds you all the time that you are bound, but I'll never be the one request a caning. I enjoy the more mind-game kind of dominance which is kind of difficult if you don't really know someone on a deeper level. I like being bound and teased even if I don't actually ejaculate. I'm pretty open-minded and will try most things once. And I have fantasies where a woman or women will restrain me and just milk orgasm after orgasm from me until they are done. The idea of just being toyed with by a woman without anyway to stop it is what gets me going. To that end, I read hentai manga because it has more depth to that kind of story than watching a porn where a woman in leather just abuses someone for half an hour. I also read the stories on sites like gagged utopia and have written a story there to get a fantasy out of my head so that I can think of something else.

And that's about it. I could write more but I'm thinking that most of you saw this wall of text and skipped right over it to more interesting people. I look forward to chatting with you.

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Welcome to the forum! :hi:

You've come to the right place to talk and share. And learn too. There are quite a few who will be quite happy to help you out with your concerns.

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J_Watts wrote:I'm thinking that most of you saw this wall of text and skipped right over it to more interesting people.
Nope, read it all... Welcome to the forum.
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Hi and Welcome,

I won't venture to say that most of us are here to write _and_ read walls of text, but most of us are...

From Your intro, I'd dare to say that I know how it is to walk in Your shoes, but let's not clutter this thread...

Have fun, share with peers...
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J_Watts wrote:I'm thinking that most of you saw this wall of text and skipped right over it
You have a major advantage over any walls-of-text posts - you used paragraphs! 8)

Keep it up and we'll be reading many more of your posts. :D

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bound_jenny wrote:you used paragraphs! 8)

Jenny.
I used to proof read for people, so I've seen several papers that just hurt to read . . . and not in the fun way, like nipple clamps. :gag:
Bad hurt. Like stubbing your toe in the dark kind of hurt. :shock:
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J_Watts wrote:the fun way, like nipple clamps. :gag:
Now we're sure you belong here! :lol:
J_Watts wrote:Bad hurt. Like stubbing your toe in the dark kind of hurt. :shock:
Especially the little toe. Stubbing that little piggy really makes you go wee-wee-wee all the way home. With an expression like this :shock: but with crossed eyes.

I hate reading posts that remind me of my little toe. :rofl:

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welcome aboard,

me thinks you should turn your attention to the chastity section.

from your descriptions this sounds like it could tickle your SO pink and yours, too.
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Welcome aboard.
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Welcome!
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