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[shygurl]

I'm a 34yo girl just out of a relationship of 11 years. Live in a small town so I'm a bit of an outsider. I've always been curious about bondage and had some experience years ago. It's been so long I might as well be a bondage virgin. Dated a year before I brought up anything. He acted like it was no big deal to him. Unfortunately he wasn't into any of it that much other than me having a ton of corsets to wear. And preaty much turned what I liked into a "problem" 5 years later. All I heard for years now about anything I expressed was "you just think different than other ppl" or "you're the one with the ****ed up head" which in all honesty made me feel like crap. (Yes I shouldn't have put up with it for so long lesson learned) I just put up with always wanting more but settling for what he wanted. So now I'm starting over, and its frustrating trying to find someone I trust enough to tell what I like and them not run the other way. I don't know my limits because they haven't ever been pushed by anyone. I feel better just being able to express myself here.

[bound_jenny]

Welcome to the forum!

which in all honesty made me feel like crap. (Yes I shouldn't have put up with it for so long lesson learned)

Usually people who make a point of making others feel like crap, are crappy people. They can't make themselves feel better so they put down others. They're among the list of people that I don't tolerate in my life. If it were legal (outside of a BDSM context) I'd whip the crap out of them.

I feel better just being able to express myself here.

That's part of why we're here. We don't judge, we listen and give advice when needed. We are all sort of a kinky family.

Have fun, take a good look around - there's plenty to read - and don't be shy.

Jenny.

[Dark_Lizerd]

Welcome fellow small towner...
Welcome to the place where you can be "messed-up in the head" and fit right in with all the other people
that are "messed-up in the head"...
11 years is a long time to be in a relationship that did not go anywhere, alto from the sounds of it,
it went down hill...

[JIMDINI]

Welcome, I think you will find this a friendly and supportive place to be. Where we think people like your ex are the "messed up heads."

[ponylady]

welcome aboard, shygurl

and don't worry; kink is meant to be enjoyed. don't let other peoples opinion convince you otherwise.

[bounddosster]

Welcome to the kinky family,
Come in, strip off, get tied up and make yourself comfy.

[dreanchaser]

Hi shy guru, From one Newby to another...Welcome aboard I can sympathise with your plight, I too am finding it hard to find the partner to have fun with. ..finding a 'switch' is like trying to find 'rocking horse poo' (please excuse my French)....but I still live in hope and that's why I'm on here...maybe there is someone out there to play with?
Keep your chin up...In time things will work out!?

[boundsissy]

A quote from another posting ,"Who is to say who is 'normal', It could very well be we are the normal, and the rest of the world is fucked up."

[CaptainJoe]

Welcome aboard, Shygurl,

and no need to be shy. This is a really caring, friendly and kinky community, be assured there's a niche for you, too.

Joe.